In Episode 11 of the We Legit 16: Stories & Hustle Podcast, we break down the reality of balancing business and relationships also known as the “love vs hustle” challenge.
Building a brand while maintaining a relationship comes with sacrifice, pressure, and hard decisions. This episode dives into how ambition impacts love, communication, and emotional support and why the people around you can either elevate your growth or slow your momentum.
If you’re an entrepreneur, creative, or builder working late nights while trying to maintain real relationships, this episode is for you.
Topics Covered:
• Balancing business and relationships
• Love vs hustle mindset
• Turning relationships into support, not distraction
• Late nights, sacrifice, and pressure
• Hustle culture vs. real growth
• Staying focused when the pressure rises
Tap in for real conversations about entrepreneurship, mindset, and growth.
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We Legit. Still Building.
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Yo, what's good? You are locked into the We Legit
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1/6 Story and Hustle podcast. Well, real story meets real
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grind. This is the platforms for
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hustlers, creators, entrepreneurs, and everyday
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people turning painted to purpose.
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If you are chasing a vision, building from the ground up, or
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grinding when nobody's watching, this is the podcast for you.
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Now let's get into it. Today's episode is about love,
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leverage and late nights while building a business and of
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course goes along with building a relationship.
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What the podcast is about is big picture.
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The podcast explores what really happens when ambition and
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intimacy run side by side. It's about navigating love while
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chasing goals, managing time, money, energy and emotional
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availability when you are building something meaningful
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and try not to lose their relationship in the process.
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It pulls back the curtains on the late nights.
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Mistakes, money, conversations, power shifts and personal growth
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that comes with being business driven and in love or trying to
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be for some folks. Core things we'll cover first.
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We're going to get into time versus attention.
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Late nights, working while partner feels neglected.
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Most thought process comes into play late night.
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As in, you can be sitting there laying down with your
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significant other and they can be talking to her out.
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The blue sun will come to your mind like, hey, what do you
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think of this? Nah, Nah, Nah, Nah, Nah 'cause
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when you're building something from the ground up, your mind
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never stops thinking. There's a constant thinking.
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So with the late night working, you're gonna be putting together
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a concept where you think might be a big hit to gain a new
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audience or keep your current audience attention going with
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your brand and what you're representing.
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But in some cases your partner, she might feels he or she might
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feels neglected. And in that aspect is her mind
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frame is, is he thinking about me or is he more into this
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business? So with more conversation of
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you're trying to build what you're building brand wise, your
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partner needs to understand that some nights is going to be I
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need to work on this to sustain the future that I'm building for
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both of us. Whether they was there from the
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beginning, whether they was there in the middle stages.
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But if you're including them with the business, they should
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be appreciative because a lot of people would like to be in the
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position, but only a select few can handle what's coming when
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you're building something from the ground up.
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And then from there you go from choosing between deadlines and
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date nights. For me it's very easy and simple
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because as I said previously, my company is based online and I
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don't have a storefront so a lot of my stuff is really freelance
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and freestyle. So I can work on something or
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something I didn't seen online and he can get it can motivate
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me to do something better or let me work on something that I
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already been doing so it will keep me motivated.
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But I wouldn't be able to miss a date night.
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So I can adjust to managing the company while maintaining the
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relationship. But as far as someone that has a
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storefront where they got to open, close, do the books at
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night, make sure everything is closed.
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So in that aspect of business or running a corporation, a lot of
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date nights can be met be missed because due to the demandingness
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of the job, making sure the company is well maintained and
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he was feeding other mouths other than itself.
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From there we go from quality time to quantity time.
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And as I said previously, quality time is you, you guys
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working on a business, but together building trust and
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foundation to where it's growing in both of you guys eyes and not
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just one sided. Quantity time is the same thing.
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The more focused business wise than quality time.
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Quality time for me is both of us working on it at the same
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time while spending quality time and quantity time.
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But depending on what type of business or corporation that
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you're running, the thing, both of them might intertwine with
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one another and it might be two separate things.
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So depending on who you're dealing with will dictate the
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quality time and the quantity time.
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From there, we're going to get into money, power and
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expectations during like dating while broke versus dating after
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success. Dating while broke is the make
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or break in the relationship to see if your mate is really
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seeing the vision that you're presenting to her or she's going
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to sit back and wait and come in a picture after the success.
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Dating while broke is the beginning stages.
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It builds trust, it builds foundation and it builds a
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program where both of you guys are working on this vision and
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putting it together, which usually a lot of people will
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stick with that partner because it was around when a person
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didn't have anything then that most issues that I'm seeing to
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now with a lot of people is, you know, a lot of people want to
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come after the success. Well, after all the hard work is
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done. And it's like they feel like, I
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want to say they feel like it, but they want to come after the
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success. Once everything is done, then
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they can take the trips, look good, be seen in public.
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And you know, sometimes that grind work when you're there
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makes a big difference because when someone comes after the
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success, it's more of a caution because you're not sure if that
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person's there for you or there for their own personal gain.
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And who pays for what in the early stages.
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If both, if both parties are participating in the vision,
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they both pay for it in the early stages because money is
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being put into it, time and efforts being put into it.
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Marketing, everything's being put into it.
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So whether the person's on paper or not, they should still be
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represented and compensated and appreciative for the work that
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they put in to building this vision and making it what it is.
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And then with that, you know, usually comes for comes with
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income imbalance and ego. Once the money comes in, that's
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when usually the problem starts. They always say more money, more
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problems, the more money you make and the more problems that
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come. A lot of people feel like their
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contribution is bigger than the next person.
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So it will really have to put the standing, the understanding
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between both parties to make sure that I did this, you did
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that. This is how we're going to
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maintain the income and make sure we're not getting all
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balance and making sure that we're staying afloat because we
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got here without the money. Now that the money is here, we
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got to make sure to sustain it and keep it going for future
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reference and create this generational wealth.
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And as usual, it comes with ego. It doesn't matter who has the
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ego, ego's going to be in the picture.
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And usually when ego's in the picture, understanding and
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common sense is out the picture. So main one thing for sure, as
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you grow, I always stay humble. But I don't mind the hustle and
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my ego stay in check because I've been at the bottom and had
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nothing. So that's why I stay grounded
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and rooted in every aspect of life and every day because it
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can be here today, it'll be gone tomorrow.
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So that's why I always tell people to live their truth and
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if you have an ego, stick with it and just be who you are
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because when you're trying to be something else, this is all the
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way fate you did and financial transparency and new
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relationships as the company grows, people is in the mix.
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You have to pay somebody to do certain tasks that used to do
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for yourself. Now you've done made enough
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money to where you have to pay somebody to do it for you.
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So as time goes on, you have to watch finances and make sure
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that enough money is coming in and you have enough to maintain
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stability and pay your employees to keep a a big happy family on
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the vision that you guys created or they keep it going because at
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the end of the day, it's all about legacy.
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It's all about legacy, and then we're going to touch on support
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versus sacrifice when support turns into pressure as time went
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on for me, so I really have support, but it never really
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felt like pressure because I go at my own pace.
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I never put myself in a position to where people are pressuring
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me to do whatever it is that they want me to do.
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The thing is, I started this from the ground up with no body
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in the picture. It just popped up and what I
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created so far is working so I would never feel pressure to do
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anything. I might take a personal advice,
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but if it doesn't resonate with my program, then it would most
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definitely be on the back burner because when I do it, like I had
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said before, what I'm doing is working and I like to keep that
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same momentum going. And then we're going to touch on
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expecting your partner to hold it down.
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If your partner understands the vision, respect you as a person,
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respect what you're building, then they're going to hold it
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down. But if they're not there, what
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good intention or genuineness, then they're not going to hold
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it down. They just going to be around for
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the moment. And when your partner doesn't
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understand your vision, that's when they feel neglected.
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You're spending more time with your business, you're spending
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more time networking, doing all these things business wise and
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you're neglecting me. That's a good example of not
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understanding your vision. They came into the relationship
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with their intentions, but not pure intentions on what it is
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that you're building. So that's why, like I had said
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previously, you really have to make sure who you bring into
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your circle and who you bring around on what you doing because
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it can make and break you. And it's hard building a brand
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from the ground up and then being emotionally present while
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mentally exhausted. That is a hard one for a lot of
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people because when you work a job, you usually deal with the
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core people at the workspace or the work office or the work
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location. When you're a corporation, a
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brand, or a small business owner, you're dealing with a lot
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of strangers on an everyday basis.
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So whether it's in person or electronically, and it becomes
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overwhelming at times. So sometimes you're not really
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tired physically, you're really tired mentally because being
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around all them individuals, it can take a toll on you.
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And some days you don't want to be interactive, you don't want
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to talk to nobody. You just want to be off to
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yourself. And it kind of Co Co exists with
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what I said previously on another episode to where when
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you're done working, you really need about an hour or two or 30
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minutes, depending on what it is to get your WUSA moment on
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before they can be emotionally available for your mate.
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All person need is that time away.
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So not just think too much on what's going on, just time to
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themselves to reflect and get them to thinking that what I'm
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doing is really, really building.
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So your partner can understand you're being mentally exhausted
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if you communicate that with her.
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But if there's no communication in the process, there's going to
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leave a lot of stuff in a limbo to where they don't know if
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they're feeling appreciated, they don't know if they're doing
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anything correctly. So it will cause a lot of doubt.
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Next we're going to get into identity and growth outgrown
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relationships as you level up. This is a tough one because as
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you level up, most people would like to bring people along who
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that was who that a lot of people like to bring somebody
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along with them that they knew from the ground up.
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As they call day ones, they pray people that was there and when
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the vision was with a pen and paper.
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So as time goes on, things change.
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When I started my company, they gave me something to do.
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I thought a couple of people was going to wear it.
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I didn't expect all this to happen as I was being
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consistent, taking a learning the craft and taking the craft
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serious and learning all type of new things.
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A lot of stuff start coming my way to where now, as I said
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previously, people from overseas want to do the work for me.
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I've been written about 6 times for different magazine articles,
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3 for the Nashville Voyage, 2 from Canvas Rebel and one from
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Bold Journey and which leads to me doing this podcast.
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Also, my social media presence I grew to where now I'm talking to
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multiple content creators with big followings.
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I'm being recognized in certain circles, and now I'm getting to
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investing in small little companies.
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Like I said, you might have a vision of what you want to do,
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but as time goes on and as you grow and level up, things
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change, priorities change, mindset change.
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So I want to say it's more so as outgrowing the relationship.
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It's more of you'd have to teach or educate people who you're
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bringing along with and see if they're ready for the real
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growth of what comes along with all of this.
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And while dating someone who met you before versus after, the
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success before the success, everything is common ground and
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neutral. The real test is when you start
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growing, you start getting paid attention a whole lot more
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people know who you are, recognizing you and being love,
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being in your presence. That is the make and break.
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Before they didn't really bother because it was still small and
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growing, but after a lot of people don't know how to handle
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that. A lot of people like the old you
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where it was just simple cool, you know, a little fame here and
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there. But as little Bootsy, I said, a
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lot of people's hypnotize with hatred and that's a true fact
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which goes into personal growth, creating emotional distance or a
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deeper connection. For me, this personal growth
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that I'm gaining this year, it's is a good thing to learn a whole
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lot more and I know who is in the picture for the long haul
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and I know who's there for the moment.
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It took for a situation to happen late last year.
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I already had a good following when I started going live on
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TikTok, but once a situation happened late last year, it gave
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me more time to work on it 24/7. When I worked on the company
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24/7, I gained a even bigger following.
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It was led to me starting this podcast, re uploading episodes,
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coming up with topics, educating a whole lot of people and giving
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individuals something to look at, listen to at a different
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aspect on looking on life. Because all this is real rap.
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Nothing stays. Nothing recorded, nothing stays.
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I should say, all this is real. And then as time goes on, the
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people that didn't fall off the wagon on the way up, the ones
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that stayed, that deeper connection can't be broken.
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Because if they was there from the beginning or if they was
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there in the middle stages, but they still chose to stay, that
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connection is going to be real deep.
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And it's going hard to get rid of that person because they
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stuck around when everybody left.
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And last but not least, love as leverage, not a distraction.
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How the right partner can sharpen your focus.
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You can feel like I'm a do this and that's that.
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When you're starting from the ground up and you don't have a
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partner, it's going to be a whole lot of trial and error.
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I can really say it's going to be a whole lot of trial and
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error. But when you have the right
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partner, they can give a little insight, a little further than
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what you're thinking. Most people started something
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they think very small and locally at first because that's
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all they know. But when you have the right
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partner, the right partner is going to help you move your
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vision a whole lot further past being local depending if the
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partner is good for you or not. So that's a a view of looking at
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it as a sharpened focus because I can feel like this design can
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work more so for the youth and the kids.
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But another design that she might have, your mate might have
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in mind might be a little further to where is more
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universal all the way around to where everybody can wear it and
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not just a selective age bracket or gender.
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From there, emotional safety as a business advantage.
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The emotional safety keeps a whole lot of things in line
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depending on the right partners there from the ground up or the
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middle stages, but stay through through everything to whereas
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the business was not only as advantage, but both of you guys
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is being looked at as brands. She's representing you, you Rep,
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you represent her and in combination you both
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representing the company because the perfect example of Jay-Z
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does his own thing and Beyoncé do her own thing.
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But when you look at both of them together, most definitely a
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power couple, a lot of motivation right there to keep
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see how two people in the same industry can maintain their own
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by themselves. But when it come together, it's
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a beautiful thing to where they being looked at as the new.
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I can't come up with a couple. But As for they just a real
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power couple, I would just say that.
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And last but not least, building together versus building
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separately. The prime example I had just
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mentioned was Jay-Z and Beyoncé before they got married, they
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were building separately, which is nothing wrong.
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And as I said in my previous episodes, when you both set that
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foundation and that program and you're sticking together, you're
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building separately, but you're still together.
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Then when you put it together, it's a beautiful thing because
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now you have two brands going into different markets,
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different genres depending on what they are into.
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So as time goes on, when you're building separately, they put it
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together, your brand grows a whole lot more because two
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different influences, two different point of views and two
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different mindsets, point of view, mindset, same thing, my
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bad. So as it all comes together,
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that's when you really see the hard work come along.
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So more of the story is, even though you're building, make
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sure to include your partner and not exclude them if they want to
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be involved, but not as much as you want them to.
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That's all a good thing. You don't have to force somebody
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to do something they don't want to do.
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But if they're all about you working and not trying to
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contribute or anything like that but have so much to say, then
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you should already know what to do from there man.
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Then message to the youth. It doesn't matter where you at
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as long as you stay consistent or whatever it is you're doing,
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whatever lifestyle that you choose to do, as long as you
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keep it 100 and everything that you do.
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So it. Yeah, that's it.
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I messed up on that. But before I close this out,
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remember this, your story matters.
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Your grind matters and where you're headed is bigger than
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where you started. No shortcuts, no excuses, just
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