In this episode of We Legit 16: Stories & Hustle Podcast, we break down why people stay stuck and how mindset, discipline, and daily habits play a major role in personal growth. A lot of people aren’t lacking talent or opportunity they’re repeating the same patterns without realizing it.
We talk about real situations that hold people back, from staying comfortable to worrying about what others think, to waiting for validation before making moves. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not progressing or you’re stuck in the same cycle, this episode gives you a different perspective on what’s really going on.
In this episode:
* Why comfort zones keep you from growing
* How fear of judgment affects your decisions
* The danger of waiting for validation
* Comparing your journey to others on social media
* How to shift your mindset and start moving forward
This episode is for entrepreneurs, creators, and anyone trying to build something while staying consistent and disciplined.
If you’re serious about growth and want to stop feeling stuck, tap in.
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Yo-yo yo-yo yo. Welcome to the We Legit 1/6
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Throwing Hustle podcast where pressure builds diamonds and
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story build legacies. This isn't small talk.
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This is ambition. This is sacrifice.
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This is to grind nobody claps for.
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If you are building for nothing but betting on yourself and
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chasing a vision, yo, you're in the right place.
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Now let's get into this work now.
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My previous episode I spoke on why entrepreneurs stay stuck,
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but this episode is going to be something different because
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everybody said he wants to level up, but most people stay in the
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same place not because they lack talent, but because they are
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trapped in habits, mindsets, and patterns they don't even
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recognize in episode. In this episode, we're going to
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be breaking down the real reasons people stay stuck and
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how it shows up in everyday life.
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This isn't surface level motivation.
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This is the uncomfortable truth about growth, discipline, and
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taking care of your direction. Coming off last episode where I
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shared my story, this one goes deeper into the mindset behind
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the moves. Why keep people?
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What keeps people in the same cycle?
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Why do some people talk about change but never actually move?
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And most importantly, how do you break out of it?
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First, what I'm going to get into is how comfort zones
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quietly keep you stagnant. Now, everybody is a victim of
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this. Reason being, when you're
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coming, when you come into this earth, you know what you know
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from the minute you born up to 18, now, everybody is a product
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of their environment. So if your environment is toxic,
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a whole lot of drama, violence, gangs, drugs, police brutality,
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then you're going to be in a mindset to where it's like you
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can't swim your way out of the situation.
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So comfort zone is a real big thing.
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A lot of people grow up in their own way, but in some cultures,
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as I said previously, is generational curses.
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So a lot of people grow up seeing generational curses and
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feel like that this is the norm. But to someone outside of your
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culture, look at that as this is not a good thing.
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So when you are dealing with people that are stuck in a
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comfort zone, it's hard to break it.
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I'll speak on me to give the viewers and my core audience a
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understanding. So for me growing up previously,
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I spoke on growing up in Long Beach, CA.
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It was gang invested, drug infested and it was all about
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being down, being hard and representing your section.
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So with the with seeing that growing up, it was kind of like
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a down if you do, down if you don't.
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And it's hard to break out that cycle because it hadn't gone on
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for so long that it became a culture.
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So now growing up in them environments, people feel like
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they have to be a part of that or join that just to be cool and
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go along with the flow. But as time goes on, you see a
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lot of people die, see a lot of people be in and out them penal
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institutions, or you see a lot of them catch a life sentence.
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So it's a revolving door that consistently keeps happening.
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So me growing up, I seen it from elementary school all the way up
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to now. So you could say from the early
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90s up to the late 2000s and 20s, mid 2000 twenties, however
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you want to call this. So I've been seeing this for a
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long time. I really didn't look at it in a
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negative aspect in until I left California and seen it from a
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different environment and a different perspective.
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But before I get into that, I have to speak on how it is
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growing up. So when you grow up, you only
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know what you know in your environment, in your
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neighborhood and what's going on.
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But you're only stuck to wherever your parents move
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before you, before you're an adult.
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So wherever your parents move is what you have to adapt to, what
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you're going to get used to and all the other stuff.
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That's not the issue. The issue, what I'm speaking on
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is when you become an adult, you have to make certain changes in
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life instead of you want to keep the generational curse going on
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or do you want to make a change now?
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For me, I'm not gonna lie to you, I really didn't want to
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leave California. It was everything there.
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We had Six Flags Disneyland, Knott's Berry Farm.
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It was just so much to do. The whole toxic thing.
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It was just there. But outside of all that, it was
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just so much to do. But I can't say that I'm not a
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product of my environment entirely, but certain
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disciplines and structures got me to where I am today and got
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me past the age of 21. So not a crash out.
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But I'm an analytical thinker, so I would think so hard to the
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core before any decision is made.
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So that's what kept me out of trouble and above water all the
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way up to now. But I have seen my elders drink,
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smoke, play cards, the typical black family in America where
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there's not much working going on assistance, things of that
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nature, kind of typical thing. So I seen that growing up.
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So for me, I wanted to break that cycle.
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I ain't think of it as breaking a cycle, but I just don't want
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to be stuck in that mindset, in that behavior to where it's like
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I'm depending on others when I can go get this myself.
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So it's like it's really hard. Like I always say in the
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beginning when you're making a change to try to do something
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different, it's always going to be hard because a lot of people
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is not going to like what it is that you're doing.
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So it's like you got to roll with it.
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You got to roll with it because once you go down this path, it's
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going to be beautiful in the end.
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But in the beginning it's rough because you got to look at it.
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Ain't nobody trying to do what you do.
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Me at 17, I try to get a job. I want to work instead of
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playing sports and all that other stuff.
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So it's like I'm trying to maintain stability the best way
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I can. So with that being said, I had
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to keep going. So once I established working, I
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got an apartment. Once I got the apartment and
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then I I became stable at a young age.
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So older people looking at me, different, younger people
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looking at me, different coworkers looking at me,
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different, my peer group looking at me in a hateful way because
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it's like, who do you think he is to maintain an apartment, get
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a job, and try to outdo us? So as as a young adult, after
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high school, late teens, late teens, not even early 20s, but
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just late teens, it's like it's intimidating to people that's
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not on the same path as you. So mindset wise, you will see
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how when you're trying to make changes, you know, you got to
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let people go. Now that will make it a comfort
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zone. Because when it's comfort, you
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know, you know your neighborhood, you know your
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environment, you know your culture, you know what you got
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to do. So it's like, how could I
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maintain stability and keep going?
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So instead of being the norm, you got to break out of the
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shell. So with breaking out of the
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shell, look at it as like in superhero movies and cartoons
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where you know, people have to, where people have to shit.
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So as they're evolving, you know, things are shedding off of
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you. You have to realize, like when
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you're making steps and moves in your life, everybody can't go
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along with you on this journey. So the benefit of what I'm
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trying to explain is in a comfort zone, people are used to
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you in a certain kind of way. And then once you break out that
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comfort zone, then problem starts you change you're doing
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this who you think you are. You think you're better than me.
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You think you're better than us. Watch.
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You're going to be back. Watch.
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Watch when I tell you and then you're going to be calling right
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back. And you should have never did
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what you did them things right there.
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People know that what you're doing is good, but they don't
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want to accept the fact that you're changing without them
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being a part of it because they're not ready for that
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change. And depending on where you at in
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life, you'll see their turn out versus your turn out.
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Because when you're ready to make a change, you ready now to
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your core group of people that you hang with on an everyday
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basis of people that know you, they might not be ready, but if
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they're a real genuine person, they will be like, hey man, I
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understand what you're trying to do and all this other stuff, but
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I'm just not ready for that. But I salute you.
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That's all the will and dandy. But if a person coming at you
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with the trying to bait you back in to who they want you to be
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instead of you choosing on who you want to be, that's not the
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group that you need to evolve. So that's why most people move
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away where they're from to get a better life.
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And when people move away, it's not because it's just, it's not
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because of what you think. They just want something
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different and to change and be around new people that don't
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know them and want to experience something different, whether it
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can be a different city, county, state, or whatever the case may
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be. But once you leave your original
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spot, people blossom in so many different ways that you don't
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even know they might still have they.
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I call it their their ways. But once they leave where
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they're from, they look at life totally different and it helps a
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lot, especially when you start traveling outside of your
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comfort zone. For me I didn't leave California
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till I was about 2524. First place I went to was
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Phoenix, AZ. Soon as I left that state line,
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I seen the difference. Arizona was cleaner.
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It was desert like. But when I went to Phoenix, I
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seen the difference between LA and Phoenix.
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I was like, man, costly was a little different.
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It's cheaper to live, but it seemed kind of manageable and it
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was clean. It was really clean.
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So I seen the difference. So from there, you know, I had
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the bug, you know, I was like, man, I was like, I wanna see
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more of the world. So I seen a good portion of the
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United States, but that's one way for people that's from their
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mid 20s or late teens, early 20s, all the way up to whatever
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my age bracket is from 18 to 45 S in that range, there's people
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I'm speaking to, male and female.
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So it's like once you escape your comfort, you're going to
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blossom automatically. Now, I'm not going to lie to
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you, when you leave your comfort, give it six months to a
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year, because when you first go somewhere that's outside of your
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comfort, it's going to feel weird.
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You're not used to it. You think these people are,
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which like different and all that is true, but you got us
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have you have to adapt. You have to adapt to something
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different. So when you adapt, then you'll
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be like, oh, OK, this location that I chose to be in, it's
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different. But remember, people remain the
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same. So when you're out your comfort,
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you'll see things a whole lot clearer versus the people that's
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there comfortable and their comfort.
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So that's why when people leave their comfort zone, they go to
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other areas, they see things a whole lot faster and clearer
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versus the people that's there in it because they pop, they
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probably never left their comfort zone.
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So they're trying to figure out how you see this, but they don't
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see it. So it's a difference of
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perception. So that's is the benefits of
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growing up in your comfort, seeing what your comfort is
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after becoming an adult, then leaving your comfort.
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Those right there will help you recognize being stagnant,
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comfortable in the benefits of what will happen when you leave
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your comfort. Now, we're going to get into why
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fear judgment controls more decisions than people admit.
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Like I said earlier, when you make a judgment call, people is
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not going to like your decision. And I spoke on this last season,
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but I want to get into it more clear now.
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When I was living in Long Beach, I only told a couple people and
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I made posts on Facebook. I was like, hey, I'm believing
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couple of days, couple months. And you know, it was nice
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knowing everybody. But then nobody believed me.
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You know what I'm saying? Nobody believed me.
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So it was like, OK, I wasn't tripping because I already
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made-up my mind on what I want to do.
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So it's like then it was there fear.
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Yeah, it was fair because I graduated college.
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I was working jobs, never promoted, never got no real perk
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or benefit. You know, I'm just work,
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homework, home. I'm not seeing anything
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different. So I was like, well, maybe I'll
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just go to Texas. I'll go to Texas, Dallas, build
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up and build up working in my career field and I'll come back
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to California. So a lot of people, some people
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was like, oh, that's good that you're leaving, blah, blah,
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blah. Some people was like, hey, why'd
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you leave this the best place to be?
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And I was just like, you know, I just, I need something different
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in life because I'm not feeling what's happening.
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So make a Long story short, I found a job on the Internet just
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searching randomly, phone interview, everything went good.
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I just had to go out there and what you might call it do the
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psychological tests to work with the children.
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So before I got there I was working, saving money.
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All the money I did I saved. I went on the Internet, I looked
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at them apartments, I looked at the salary on the job I managed,
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how much it was going to be after taxes.
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I always base everything after taxes to see how much money I
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have leftover. So I did that, found a place, I
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looked at the crime statistics online, I looked at what was in
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the area where I if I had to drive forward and get this and
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that. So, you know, I was just
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learning and seeing what was in the area before I actually got
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there. So when I moved to Texas, I said
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my goodbye to everybody. I patched up all of the bad
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press, not bad press, but you know, the bad mark I left on
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people. So I made sure I left on good
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terms with everybody. And that's a good thing because
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now it's like it's just mutual all the way around.
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So I can't complain. I can't trip and people know my
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character. So when I made the move, people
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was looking, seeing how it was going.
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I got real closer with the Nashville, TN family on this
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journey. But I'm not going to lie to you,
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when I drove from Long Beach to Moreno Valley by that Arizona,
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Nevada, California, like state line area, as I said earlier,
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with that shedding each mile, it was like more shedding,
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shedding, shedding just like leaving, you know?
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And it was just like, to be honest with you, I ain't really
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seen myself going back to California and I ain't even to
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visit because that's how much, that's how much I was really
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ready to do this. I mean, judgment control is
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there because people don't want to see you leave that and got
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used to you being around. So now they got adapt to
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something different. They got adapt to you being away
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at a distance. Now the phones is easier now
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because now you FaceTime and you know, you know, call text and
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all that other stuff. So that's how I looked at it.
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I was like, I'm still there, you know, just hit me on the phone.
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So always remember when you're going to make a change, your
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peer group, your neighborhood, and the people around you that
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know you, they're going to make judgment calls for you to get
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you to stay. Now it's up to you on that
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decision part because if you stay, you already know what
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you're going to deal with. Same clubs, same bar, same
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streets, same people, same everything.
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Ain't going to be nothing different unless people from
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outside of your area moves in, then you get to know them.
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But then that judgment, judge, that prejudge thing is going to
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come in because they're going to be different from what you're
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used to. And then you're going to be
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like, well, why they come over here and all this, you know,
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that's going to come into play. But when you leave, then you're
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going to be looking at them people different because you're
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going to see the difference on how it is by you leaving your
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comfort and them staying in their comfort.
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Then you're going to speak wisdom and to them because you
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left your comfort, but they still in their comfort.
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So that's how communication and interaction with folks leaving
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and staying in happens all throughout the the world.
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So just be mindful of who you dealing with and what you're
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dealing with because you never know who you're going to run
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into and it's always best to have a strong mindset and a
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broad look on life. Now the next thing we're going
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to get into is the trap of waiting for validation from
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people who aren't building anything.
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Now I am a victim of this because when I never left my
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comfort I was looking at my elders as this is everything.
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Reason being they had a status, they've been to the pen and
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those are only two things. And believe it or not growing up
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my whole thing in life was that had be just like them.
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But I never actually thought about going to the penitentiary.
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It just never came to mind. But I did want to have a decent
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job and being a city around people that I knew and pull up
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at that famous Winchell's on Anaheim in Atlantic in that
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parking lot to Polly Plaza parking lot and just hang out
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like they did. But when I graduated college, my
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mindset got the changing and I start looking at things
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different. I looked at finances, I looked
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at stability, cost of living, how things will be further on in
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life and how stuff's going to change.
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So going to college changed my mindset on a lot of different
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things. So that type of thinking less
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so, but I still wanted to build something to where it's like,
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hey, he did. So it's like, I want to do that,
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but it's hard to explain that to somebody when they're not trying
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to do anything, but they're trying to dictate everything
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that you're doing because they don't want to see you rise and
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reach your full potential when they're stuck in their dilemma.
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So there's always going to be people around.
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They don't do nothing at all. And when I mean nothing, I mean
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nothing and they're going to try to dictate you to do what it is
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they want you to do. But you the 1 putting in work.
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And what I mean by putting in work, you're going to work,
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you're going to school, trade school, getting degree
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certificate, trying to build yourself up to be to where you
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don't have to be stuck in certain situations and
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environments. You want to go outside the
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environment. Nothing wrong with staying in
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your environment, but just remember hate is hate.
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Some people's not going to like the car that you drive, clothes
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that you buy, the shoes that you wear, and how you decorate your
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place. Now when you stay within your
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comfort and trying to grow, it's hard.
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People break into your stuff. They talk bad about you, they
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want you around but they don't want you around and they want
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you to feed they habits. It's your vision.
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Now with that being said, when you are trying to build, you got
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to have the right people around, same people that think along the
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lines as how you think when you're trying to build something
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with people that have nothing going on, they're going to
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tarnish it on purpose because they don't want to see a growth
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and they don't got the patience and they don't know anything no
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different. So them people push them, give
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them that stiff arm, get them out the way.
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Nice but not nice. Be cordial, cool, but be but
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stay firm on what it is you're saying because they're going to
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still push that button to make sure that you own what you own
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and make sure that you this is really what you want to do.
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Now it's going to be fallouts. It's going to be fallouts,
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people, it's going to be fallouts.
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You have to prepare for the fallout.
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You have to look at it and be like, well, is it worth me
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having this person around? What am I benefit of having this
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person around me? Having people around me as I'm
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growing for myself and they have nothing going on, it just didn't
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make sense. So I was like, you know what,
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I'm gonna make this change and I'm gonna do it for the the best
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and I'm gonna do it for me. I mean, I have younger siblings,
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I have younger relatives. I had nieces and nephews.
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But there's certain things that I have to do that I chose to do
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for them to look at me in a different kind of light to where
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all he's different from what I'm used to and everybody else.
00:26:26
So it's like, OK, this is what we rocking with.
00:26:30
Either you respect it or you don't.
00:26:32
But just remember people that as long as you live in your truth
00:26:36
and what it is that you want to do, all the outside noise ain't
00:26:39
going to matter because they everybody going to have
00:26:42
something to say. Whether they know you or don't
00:26:44
know you, they're going to have something to say.
00:26:46
I have these particular people that I used to work with still
00:26:51
looking at me, still stalking. So I'm not even from here.
00:26:56
So that's a prime example for you to look at.
00:26:59
Now. I catch hate on everyday basis
00:27:03
just on what I do. Sell clothes, a podcast, start a
00:27:10
media company. Now on the verge of starting
00:27:13
another business venture that I'm going to test the waters
00:27:17
with, but let's just go see how it works.
00:27:20
So with those things, you think somebody on the outside looking
00:27:25
at me like, oh man, he's really doing his thing.
00:27:26
But not everybody's going to rock with you even though you're
00:27:30
out your comfort zone and area. But just remember, when you go
00:27:34
into another domain and another area, they're not going to rock
00:27:38
with what you're doing. Keep that in mind too.
00:27:42
Hate isn't just in your comfort area and zone, it's everywhere.
00:27:49
Remember that. And next we're going to get into
00:27:54
how comparing journeys to others slow your progress.
00:28:04
Previously, when people don't have nothing going on, they
00:28:09
always want to dictate what other people do.
00:28:13
They always want to slow this person roll down.
00:28:16
Say, for instance, I go to college.
00:28:19
Hey, man, I got safe with these midterms.
00:28:21
Hey, man, we're trying to hit the club just like man you, you
00:28:24
could that wait. Prime example.
00:28:27
Hey, man, I got to do this homework, man, so I can make
00:28:30
sure I get these grades together and I'm in all this other stuff.
00:28:33
Hey, man, we going out, man, we bout to go to the beach.
00:28:36
That that can't wait. So when you're in those stages,
00:28:42
you have to look at what people are doing and telling you that
00:28:47
can wait. Just come kick it with us now.
00:28:50
Bars, clubs and people, let's go into them.
00:28:55
It's not going anywhere people. It's still going to be there.
00:28:59
So you might as well sacrifice 3 junior college, 2 years.
00:29:06
College is four years. After that it's on you and
00:29:08
whatever, however you want to advance.
00:29:10
So how many years and whatever field you want to get into, just
00:29:15
remember that is nothing wrong with going out here and there or
00:29:20
after the semester, during the semester, or however you program
00:29:24
your schedule. But just remember that that
00:29:29
stuff is always going to be there.
00:29:30
It's not going nowhere, but once you finish your progress, then
00:29:35
you're going to see the fruits of your labor.
00:29:38
Now for me, it took a minute because I didn't know how I was
00:29:44
just going to turn about because I had nobody to lean on.
00:29:48
I learned everything on my own and nobody in the family did all
00:29:51
the stuff that I'm doing. So I had nobody to look to or
00:29:55
get advice from. So that's why my journey is a
00:29:59
little different compared to someone else's journey.
00:30:03
They probably had a relative or somebody that they knew that did
00:30:06
these things that can coach them and guide them into what it is
00:30:10
that they're going through and get them through things.
00:30:12
Me, I had to learn from the ground up and on my own.
00:30:15
So I can't get mad on how I came about doing things, but just
00:30:22
know that I learned it and now I teach it to other people in ways
00:30:28
for them to understand and for them not to feel, you know,
00:30:33
guilty or bad. Because I can't judge somebody
00:30:38
on how they are because I used to be that person until I
00:30:42
realized what was going on. So when people that have nothing
00:30:47
going on try to slow your progress, just remember that
00:30:51
they are being who they are. It's up to you to stand up to
00:30:55
these people or this person and let them know like hey, I'm
00:30:59
trying to do what I got to do so I can build myself up to where I
00:31:03
don't have to be using my last 20 to get a 40 oz or cigarettes
00:31:09
or make it seem like I got whatever it is that I got to go
00:31:13
to this club or a bar. I want to build myself up so I
00:31:19
don't have to lowball and try to make myself bigger than what I
00:31:23
am. So a lot of people really need
00:31:30
to look at their comfort #1 #2 look at the culture,
00:31:38
environment, and what you're dealing with on a daily basis
00:31:41
and #3 how to change it. What do I need to do to change
00:31:46
this circumstance and what I'm going through right now?
00:31:49
And four, figure out a program on how to get out of the
00:31:55
comfort. So those are 4 things I would
00:32:00
say to get yourselves prepared for what it is that you're going
00:32:05
to face when you make changes in life.
00:32:07
And for me, the difference between being busy versus
00:32:14
actually growing, Being busy is going to work, coming home,
00:32:22
cooking, cleaning, make sure your kids and stuff is like
00:32:26
that. I don't have any kids.
00:32:28
I'm speaking on the terms of a parent and everyday working
00:32:34
individual, so imagine them things.
00:32:38
That's what you call being busy, but what is being called what I
00:32:43
call is actually growing. After you do your daily things,
00:32:49
you take time out to work on school, work, midterm, business
00:32:55
plan, content. That's what you call actually
00:32:59
growing when you're doing something out of your everyday
00:33:03
norm. That is what you call being busy
00:33:09
and actually growing. Being busy is doing your routine
00:33:14
daily things. That's just being busy growing.
00:33:19
Making sure like this jacket, make sure the merch is straight
00:33:23
like the logo on the back, making sure you're growing that
00:33:28
all that on this song corner shelf, making sure that is
00:33:32
straight. So you know, it's like those are
00:33:36
things that you really got to look at.
00:33:39
So what you're going through, get yourself get yourself a
00:33:44
sheet of paper and a pen or a pencil.
00:33:47
Write down what it is that you need to do, what you see and
00:33:50
what you change 'cause when you look at on the phone it don't
00:33:54
hit the same. When you write it on pen and
00:33:56
paper it hits different because you're looking at it like oh
00:33:59
wow, certain things I never thought about.
00:34:02
Then depending on your age range, have yourself a drink,
00:34:08
chill, relax, sit there and think, have jazz playing ways,
00:34:14
whatever it is that calm you down and have a chill moment of
00:34:16
silence and really sit here and think about how can I change
00:34:21
what it is that I want to change?
00:34:23
Or if you not wanting to change how you want to grow, it's
00:34:28
nothing wrong with staying in your comfort, but just realize
00:34:31
that it's going to be hard to grow because you're in your
00:34:35
comfort and these people know you.
00:34:38
So for you to try to make a change, it's going to be a
00:34:40
constant battle every day. Remember that.
00:34:44
So last but not least is what we're going to touch on is what
00:34:50
it really takes to shift mindset and start moving different.
00:34:56
For me, I never had the concept of we legit.
00:35:03
I got in trouble at 20 years old.
00:35:06
I went to jail and I was looking at serious time and I said to
00:35:14
myself, I don't like how these people talking to me.
00:35:18
I don't like these circumstances.
00:35:20
I don't even like the situation that I'm in.
00:35:22
And when I get up out this, if I can get out this situation, I
00:35:26
will make a full blown change. And you know, I would be
00:35:30
strictly legit. Now, I ain't gonna lie to you.
00:35:35
When I got out the situation, they let me out and I was just
00:35:40
on the path of just something different.
00:35:42
And mind you, I'm 20, so I'm doing things totally different
00:35:47
from the norm of LA culture. I mean, you got people that work
00:35:52
and do and hang out and stuff with me.
00:35:55
It's like I ain't do none of that.
00:35:57
The whole mindset just changed after that because I didn't see
00:36:00
myself being incarcerated for years, just going along with a
00:36:06
program. I like to run my own program.
00:36:09
That's the true Aries. And, and it's like, OK, so once
00:36:16
I made the change, I got out. That made the change, although
00:36:20
I'm gonna be straight and narrow.
00:36:21
So each day and year, you know, I worked on it, worked on it.
00:36:26
Women in the life didn't understand what I was trying to
00:36:28
do. So that became a conflict of
00:36:32
interest, you know, And then at that time in LA culture,
00:36:37
everybody was in doing the same thing or something similar.
00:36:40
So it's like, how do I break this cycle?
00:36:44
How do I break this cycle? I have nobody to speak to or how
00:36:46
to break this cycle. That's what I'm saying in my
00:36:48
head. So I got around people that
00:36:50
didn't know me from a can of paint that I work with and I
00:36:53
didn't tell them every little thing about total little
00:36:56
snippets to see if they're in tune or what I'm talking about.
00:37:01
So that happened. They understood that somehow
00:37:04
gave me advice and I still follow it to this day.
00:37:07
And so with that being said, all this up to now didn't started
00:37:15
when I started the company. It started when I decided at 20
00:37:19
years old, October 2008, that I want to make a change in life to
00:37:25
be something totally different from the norm.
00:37:27
And there's always rocky in the beginning because a lot of
00:37:31
people ain't going to take you serious.
00:37:33
Whatever it is that you're going to do, nobody's going to take
00:37:36
you serious until they see it. And when they see it, they treat
00:37:39
you different. So keep that in mind people that
00:37:44
when you are going to make a change and you stick through it,
00:37:50
go through the mud, the trenches of it and all, it's going to be
00:37:53
beautiful at the end of the day. Now with me per usual, college
00:38:00
grad, business owner, podcaster, media company and a variety.
00:38:06
A lot of different things have been featured 6 times in all
00:38:09
magazines articles with Nashville Voyage, Canvas, Rebel
00:38:15
Boat Journey and you can find that on my website
00:38:21
welegitclothing.com. You can also see that on the
00:38:25
website websites. I'll have the link in the
00:38:27
description box so y'all can go ahead and check it out.
00:38:31
Now before I close this out, I would like to give a shout out
00:38:37
to everybody in these perspective areas that's
00:38:41
supporting the podcast. First and foremost, shout out to
00:38:45
Nashville, TN, Knoxville, TN, y'all are doing y'all stuff on
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supporting and watching and listening to the podcast and
00:38:55
Antioch, shout out to y'all. Now in all first, Oh yeah,
00:39:01
another thing, Dallas and Fort Worth, my second home showing
00:39:06
support too. I'm seeing y'all and then I want
00:39:10
to give a shout out to Japan. I want to give a shout out to
00:39:14
Vietnam, United Kingdom, Philippines, South Korea,
00:39:19
Russia, Singapore, Egypt, Morocco, Finland, Mongolia,
00:39:25
Sweden, Tunisia, Zimbabwe, Trinidad, Dubai, Venezuela,
00:39:34
Nigeria, Angolia, Israel, Panama, Argentina, Brazil,
00:39:42
Mexico and Pakistan. Whether y'all believe it or not,
00:39:48
this podcast is going global. I'm internationally known and I
00:39:53
would like to appreciate y'all for taking the time out to
00:39:57
listen to this podcast because you might not think I'm not
00:40:01
paying attention, but I'm paying attention and I'm really
00:40:04
appreciative of everything that you guys are doing, whether
00:40:07
you're watching. We're listening.
00:40:10
I just appreciate y'all taking the time out to listen to me
00:40:13
speak and check out my content. And to the future content
00:40:19
creators on collaborations, just hit my DMS or e-mail at
00:40:23
welegitllc16@gmail.com and you could top it up with me and we
00:40:31
can work something out. And also, if you are an artist
00:40:35
and you have any music that you would like to be broadcast, I
00:40:39
got another project that I'm thinking about working on and it
00:40:43
has to be clean music. It can't be any curse words.
00:40:47
So just DM me and we can get that going.
00:40:52
And what else I got going on, That's about it.
00:40:57
So remember people, be you, do what you want to do and live
00:41:03
life the best way you can and make sure you give it 100%.
00:41:06
Stand on 10 toes and stand on business all the way through it.
00:41:09
Because remember, it's always rough in the beginning, but as
00:41:13
you keep going through the motions and getting through the
00:41:16
trenches and everything, it's going to get better.
00:41:19
Doesn't matter what it is you're doing.
00:41:21
You don't got to be a college grad.
00:41:22
You don't even have to have a trade or anything like that, but
00:41:26
it helps when you're trying to advance yourself in life so you
00:41:29
can look back and look at achievements.
00:41:31
But just remember, as long as you're staying true to yourself,
00:41:36
that's all that matters. Now before I wrap this up,
00:41:42
understand something. Your story isn't random, your
00:41:46
grind isn't invisible, and where you are heading is bigger than
00:41:50
where you started. No shortcuts, no excuses, just
00:41:55
discipline, pressure and purpose.
00:41:57
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