Why do people change when you start winning?
In this episode of the We Legit 16: Stories & Hustle Podcast, we dive into the uncomfortable truth about what really happens when you level up and find success.
The hate doesn’t always get louder sometimes it gets quieter, disguised as support.
I break down how success shifts people’s energy, exposes fake encouragement, and reveals who’s truly rooting for you versus who’s just watching from a distance. We talk about silent hate, surface-level praise, and why growth makes certain people uncomfortable.
This isn’t about bitterness it’s about awareness. Learning how to move different, protect your momentum, and stop explaining your vision to people who were never meant to walk with you.
If you’ve ever felt the energy change as you leveled up, this conversation is for you.
Stay focused. Stay disciplined. Keep building anyway.
Topics Covered:
- Why people change when you succeed
- Fake support & hidden hate
- Success mindset & growth
- Protecting your energy
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Yo, what's good, you are locked into the We Legit 16 Story and
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Hustle podcast where real story meets real grind.
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This platform is for hustlers, creators, entrepreneurs,
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everyday people turning pain into purpose.
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If you are chasing a vision or building from the ground up, or
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grinding when nobody's watching, this podcast is for you.
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Now let's get into it. Today's episode is about success
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changes how people lie to you. What I mean by success doesn't
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change people, it reveals them. The lies just get quieter, the
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smiles get wider, and the support turns conditional.
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When I started my company, I noticed that a lot of people
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that I knew became distance. For what reason I couldn't tell
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you. It's just so I look at it as
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part of the process. So it was kind of hard to take
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in the beginning because I had no blueprint or nothing to go
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off of. So this is something I want to
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do. So I just kept on pushing and
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pushing and pushing and as time went on, I never really cared if
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I got a lot of views, likes or anything like that, but I just
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noticed that it's always somebody out there watching.
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So by me staying consistent in the background and keeping it
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going, that's what keeps me going.
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As time goes on, people will change and they really going to
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show who they are as time goes on.
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The lies of I'm proud of it sounds supportive, but the
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energy feels off all the time. When people come across my
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content or actually realize and see what I'm doing, they always
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say, oh man, you know I'm so proud of you, man, you doing
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this and that. Now let me know I'm a buy
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something. You know I'm saying just send me
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anything. You know I'm a re share and
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repost it. I when I get conversations like
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that I take it with a grain of salt because I don't know if the
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person is being genuine or they being real.
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So I always go off like I had said the last previous episodes.
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I always go off the actions because a person could say
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anything that the actions going to speak volumes and that's what
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I go off of the clap. Publicity doubts you privately,
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people gravitate to the norm. Nobody likes being real.
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That's why I keep saying I'm authentic and that's why I say
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I've been doing this since 81 because they don't make them
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like they used to, as a lot of people would say.
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And I'm a rare breed and the more that I grow older and be
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around people, I start to see that I'm really built different
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thanks to Fred T Carter out of Nashville.
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And what I mean by the claps, everybody's going to clap and
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make it look like they're doing what they're doing, but in the
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back of their mind, they want you to fail because a lot of
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people, like I said in my previous episode, is not going
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to be with you on this journey. So if you feel, let me like they
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give them something to talk about.
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See, I told you he wasn't going to do it and blah blah blah, and
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you got to prove people wrong. I've been in existence to since
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August of 2021. This year will Mark May of this
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year will mark three years that I've been selling.
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And it got me 6 magazine articles from three from
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Nashville Voyage, 1 from 2 from Canvas Rebel, and one from Bold
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Journey. And it's just more to come.
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And then another thing. Support without action isn't
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support. Support without action is
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someone watching what you do, not liking it, not leaving a
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comment, not re sharing it or not even telling you?
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Hey I see what you're doing. That right there is what you
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call support without action. It isn't support.
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It's just talk for them, but while you're in their presence.
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But possibly it can be gossip, possibly it could be hatred, but
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give them something to talk about behind closed doors.
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And then what else we about to get into is when access changes,
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energy changes, some people different tone.
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It's a lot of people that I used to talk to on a regular basis.
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When I changed the access from them people to how they had
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access to me, you know, the tone got different and it didn't
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happen overnight. It happened more so as in when I
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start be taking it serious and seeing who I was becoming and my
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conversation had changed. So when my conversation changed,
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I'm talking to these individuals about it, their tone changed
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also. So I realized that I knew that I
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couldn't talk to these individuals anymore on certain
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subjects and I was comfortable with that.
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But when I even try to stoop down, I won't say stoop down,
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but even when I try to keep the communicate, the line of
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communication going, it just wasn't the same.
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And and this is like kind of like previously what I had on
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mentioned earlier, they missed a version of you that didn't
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threaten your comfort. Now as time goes on, you grow
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and when you step out of that comfort zone, people are
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starting to get intimidated by nature.
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Like who did he think he is? Who does she think she is?
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Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. We've been rocking for however
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long. How you just going to do that to
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the crew, the girls, the Bros, all the other stuff like, hey
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man, I want something different in life.
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I can't sit around here hanging out with you at the park corner,
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the store, wherever people dwell and hang at and do same with on
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the female side. It's just I can't do that no
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more. I want to do something
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different. So you got to respect what it is
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that I do. If not, you know, it is what it
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is. And a lot of people can't take
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that because they love that version of you.
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But when you elevate to a whole new version, the hate comes very
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strong. And that's when boundaries get
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labeled as, oh, you change, you think you bit bigger.
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And because you're doing this, you're doing that, you don't be
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around us no more. You move, you change your number
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and all the other stuff. As you grow, you got to make
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changes. It's going to hurt in the
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beginning, but as a in the long run, it's going to make you
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reflect on what you really didn't miss, the same old, same
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old. And a lot of people can't break
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that habit. Like I said previously, a lot of
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things is generational so now it's up for people to look into
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the mirror and talk to themselves and realize what it
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is that they need to do and change this some curse to make
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it better for future generations to come.
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So being labeled as you change is not a bad thing, it's just a
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lot of people don't know how to take it because it's not looked
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at in a positive light. It's looked at in a negative
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light. In my eyes.
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It's always try to keep a person down because they don't want to
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see them level up above them when it's them.
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It's cool when I do this problem and that's just facts.
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And then we're going to get into fake support versus silent hate.
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Man when I moved to Nashville, TN I thought it was going to be
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cool and good but I wasn't really looking for any type of
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support because I know how to get out the mud.
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I know how to be my own motivator.
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But I always seen fake support versus silent hate my whole
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life. But it seemed very entrenched
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when I start making a name for myself.
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Not the whole city, but just a small group of people that fake
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support shows up to watch, not help.
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Currently I have a handful of people that on watch but don't
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help multiple times all the time to a point to where I had to who
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weed boy. I just had to do some things
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that just let this person out. Like yo, just just leave me
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alone because what you doing is you fanned out, but you're not
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supporting, which is kind of weird in a sense, but I just
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take it for some a form of support.
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And then that silent hate helps you slow down.
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When a person got a vindictive personality that want to see you
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fail, they're going to go through extra measures to make
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sure you fail because they don't like nothing that you do.
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It doesn't matter if you brush your teeth in the morning.
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It doesn't matter if you sharing a bottle of water with them.
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They just envy every little thing about you.
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You being in a presence bothers them.
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And if they got a vindictive personality and they don't like
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you and they create a Wolf Pack mentality to get you up out of
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there, whether it's work related, crew related,
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neighborhood related, they want to see you going.
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They're going to push the issue. They don't press the line.
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And that is what you call silent hate.
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That's trying to slow you down. But in my situation, I grew even
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further in the situation to where these particular people
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watch me more than I watch myself.
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And once again, that's just facts.
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Real supporters move with you, not against you.
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I have a handful of supporters that's moving with me, give me
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words of encouragement, saying that I'm doing my thing and they
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like what I'm doing. And I like that better than just
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not going against me because you never know what a person might
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turn into when you come across them.
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But if you showing genuine love that that love is going to be
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returned in a real way. It might not happen overnight,
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it might not happen in six months, it might not happen in a
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year. But eventually that person's
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going to return the favor because they never going to
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forget what you did when you was being genuine, being your true
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self. And then we're going to get into
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why success make people lie. People are selfish by nature.
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People's selfishness gets blocked their blessings in so
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many ways. And then jealousy is disguised
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as a concern. People have a lot of talent, but
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depending on your peer group and your social crew, same thing,
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different wording. It really dictate how far you
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want to go. When you want to step
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out-of-the-box of the crew, do something different.
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Get into a relationship, want to have a family, start a business,
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take your life serious with a job, all kind of different
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things. Your normal crew is going to hit
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you. Like I said earlier in this
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podcast, you change that is the make and break.
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Whether you're going to stick with the crew or you going to
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stat shy away from the crew, staying with the crew.
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Make it generational. Reason being, it's been done.
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Generation like the generation like the generation.
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But once you make that change, that's what you call breeding a
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new generational curse. Now jealousy is going to be in
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all kind of forms. Jealousy is going to be on how
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you how you dress, how you wear your shoes, how you eat your
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food, how you walk. People get upset about other
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folks because how they walk and talk.
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Everybody's not from the same place.
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A lot of people from different areas.
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A lot of people grew up as a different culture, same
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ethnicity, different culture. Everybody move and grew
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different. So being jealous over small and
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little things like that really makes you be like, you can't
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really save everybody, you know? So it's like you got to pick
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your battles and choose who is comfortable with you.
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If a person is not on the same wavelength or energy wise, you
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don't have to keep that person around just to feel special
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every. You got to treat yourself as if
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you are a employer or a boss. If you're hiring this person,
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every interaction with the individual is an interview of
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should this person be on my life?
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What is this person is going to bring to my piece?
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Is it good or bad? And I always tell people you
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should put a person on a probationary period, however
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long you want, just to see if they're going to stick around or
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they really being genuine because you just never know.
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So the longer you build a connection, the more the
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person's going to show their true colors.
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And then with that, that goes into fear of being left behind.
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When I decided to leave California, a lot of people
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didn't rock with it at 1st. And I looked at it as well, you
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know, I'm going to come down to the South.
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I'm going to get experience in the career field that I chose
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and I was going to come back. I stayed down here six months in
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Dallas, TX. I ended up liking it and it was
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cool. So at first I talked to people
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back home all the time, they telling me all these things and
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you know, I did feel left out. But as time went on and as I was
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developing the person on who I am today, I became comfortable
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with everything. So a lot of things don't bother
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me as much. But for someone that's not
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strong minded, you really got to learn how to be left out.
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Not being part of the pack, not being in the loop, you know,
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it's just something that you got to get used to.
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Every individual got to go through that on their own.
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There's no words for that. That's more of an individual
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too. And with that, then the next
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thing you're going to come across is they lie to protect
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their ego, not your feelings. People lie because they big
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themselves up to a certain individual who they think they
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are in their head, but in reality that's not them.
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So as I grew, a lot of people feel like they got to have a
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certain conversation with me. The crazy part is I'm regular,
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normal, same person, authentic and everything, but how I look
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to them on social media or wherever they see the things
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that I post content wise, they'll feel like they have to
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have a certain type of much on this tool, cockiness tool and
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all this other stuff. I'm communicating like I
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normally do, but at the same time I'm saying in my head like,
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why is this person doing all this one that we could just have
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a really conversation. If it comes up in the
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conversation, cool, you know, so I know how to talk and maintain
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a conversation, but you had to come at me with the theatricals
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and try to make it. I'm not about to be doing all
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that, bro. You know, it's just just be real
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with me and I would be real with you.
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That's all I know how to do. I don't fake any gimmicks or
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anything like that. Like I'll be saying on my
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TikTok. Lies, man.
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This right here is authentic. They don't make them like this
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no more and I've been around since 81 and then getting close
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to closing all this out. You're gonna be realizing that
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you outgrowing rooms without announcing it since I started we
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legit LLC as time went on and as I grew and took it real serious
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on people just so happen to look me up and see what I do.
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I feel the difference. Everything was cool, but now
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once they see what I do, the vibe changes.
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Like I said earlier, particularly individuals that I
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know real cool in the beginning found out what I was doing, try
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to down talk it like it was nothing.
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But in the midst of that conversation I knew right then
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and there there was some hate there.
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So communicating, passing, but not on a consistent basis
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because I didn't rock with the vibe because I felt it right
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away. As time went on, things grew
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more people knew, he got more and more upset.
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Why I couldn't tell you. That's a that person problem,
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not a me problem. And you can feel that you're
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doing something genuine and good as, like I said, you outgrowing
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rooms without announcing it. I can go somewhere not say
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nothing. If someone's in the room and
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know who they know who I am, they'll speak for me.
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And that is volumes. That's respect, curiosity and
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they like what I'm doing. Someone that got a vindictive
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mind wouldn't take that as hate as me and my cousin will clown
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about. Like in the movie Belly when
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dude was peeling that banana. Everybody know that scene.
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They seen that movie and then you got to realize that not
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every explanation is old. Now I know what I do, but I
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conduct myself in a way to where it's like I don't mind having
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conversations, just being regular, but I don't have to
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explain every little thing that I do.
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Sometimes I don't want to talk about what I do business wise
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because. When it comes to that, I'm all
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about elevation, like I said in my previous episodes, and I
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don't want to be talking about something where if I'm not
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elevating or is going into growth, if it's not going into
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growth, I kind of shy away from the conversation.
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I'll tell you how to do it, but by me telling you, you got to do
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it yourself because you know how you work and I know how I work.
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So if I'm, if a person wants me to coach them on how to do
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something, then that person going to have to take the
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initiative to do other things because there might be certain
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things that I do that you might not like, which is cool.
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So like I said earlier, you have to look in that mirror and
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really have a talk with yourself and see what you think is good
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and bad in your current state and what you should do future
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wise to make it better or have it remain the same.
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Because everybody watch each other whether they know it or
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not. And it's just a part of growth.
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And as with growth, growth requires separation.
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I separated myself from my current environment, Long Beach,
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CA when I did that. I see myself growing.
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I see myself doing a whole lot of things I never knew I can do
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now. As I said in previous episodes,
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nothing fazing. A whole lot of things I know how
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to do When I started the company, no support, no nothing.
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And now it's being looked at worldwide.
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That's why the whole model is from the east side of Long Beach
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to internationally known and it makes me smile.
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You dig? Then you got peace comes when
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you stop needing validation. Now, ever since that first
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magazine article, I I feel like I don't really need to say too
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much on my lives on TikTok. I entertain, I talk, but in the
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meantime, I do speak real facts and I let them know like, you
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know, if you want to know more about me, just Google we legit
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LLC on my name, Marquis Carter, and you'll see what I'm talking
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about. You learn a little bit about me,
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but I'll give you a picture. So that gives me validation
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without doing a whole lot of explanation and I'm in a
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peaceful mind state and a lot of stuff is not going to get to me.
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And if a person communicate with me, I don't mind communicate
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when I'm back because everybody needs somebody to vent to and
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listen to. And by me being so raw, real and
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authentic, I know what to say and what not to say.
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And these are a lot of stuff that I had on my mind in the
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past couple of months and a lot of advice I should give people
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that's in, I want to call it midlife crisis, but they just
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need somebody to talk to and let them know.
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So somebody to vent to. Therapy is good.
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Therapy is really good. I went to one therapy session
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last year and I tell you, after I let everything out, I felt
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like a whole new person. I feel like a whole lot of
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weight was off my shoulders. So there's nothing wrong with
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seeing the therapist because you don't have to worry about it
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going out to anybody. That's between you and that
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person. And these are some quotes that I
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want to bring into the episode for people to think and ponder
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on and, you know, get the mind working.
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Here's one of them. The louder the congratulations,
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the quieter the loyalty. If your success makes them
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uncomfortable, they were never for you.
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Some people support you better when you are struggling.
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Growth will cost you people who benefited from you staying the
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same. Little quotes to get your mind
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going, make you reflect and see how you should change your
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situation or you cool with your current situation.
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There's nothing wrong with doing what is that you doing as long
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as it makes you happy and that's the first and that's the first
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thing, as long as it makes you happy.
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If you want to change, change on your own.
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When you change it for other people, it's not going to go the
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way you thought because you're not doing it for you.
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You're doing it for someone else.
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And before I close out the episode, I got a message.
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Success doesn't owe anyone comfort.
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If your light exposes their darkness, that's not your
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problem. Keep building.
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Let the energy sort itself out. And before I close the episode,
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as per usual, remember this. Your story matters, your grind
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matters, and where you're heading is bigger than where you
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started. No shortcuts, no excuses, just
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hustle and purpose. If you felt this episode, tap
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in, subscribe, share with someone on their grind and keep
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enjoy your night and a message to the youth.
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Stick to what you know and if you don't like what you know,
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learn something different that can better your future because
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you have to live this life, nobody else.
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Until next time.